A new and horrifying story has recently hit the news cycle- the existence of a platform dubbed the “Rape Academy,” where men guided other men on the best ways to drug and rape their wives and partners while they were unconscious. Videos of the heinous violations were then uploaded to a porn site called Motherless where these monsters made money by sharing videos of them raping their drugged partners. This comes on the heels of a shocking story from a few years ago out of France where Gisèle Pelicot discovered that her husband had been drugging her nightly for years and inviting more than 200 of his friends to their family home to rape her while she was unconscious, while documenting it all.

I am appalled by the response from the men to this story. When the story first hit people were saying that it was 62,000,000 men that frequented the site, when it was actually 62,000,000 unique hits. This mistake is really eating some of the men alive because real humans and online impressions are not the same thing, damnit! They insist that, if we’re going to talk about this incessantly, we must at least do so accurately. And I am here to tell you that, if after learning about the existence of a rape academy your first instinct is to say to women, “well, actually…” then you are a piece of shit. How many women have to be raped, how many men have to be rapists, for you to just care about the horror of the situation rather than the arithmetic? And the ones not saying that dumb shit are saying absolutely nothing or are just saying some milquetoast bullshit that checks a box. There’s is a more quiet and complacent harm, but it is harm nonetheless. Oh, and, just for reference…

What will it actually take for men as a collective to give a shit about what happens to women? Not because they have wives, or mothers, or daughters, or sisters, but just because it’s the right thing to do. What will it take for their kneejerk reaction to be, “holy fucking shit, this is horrifying, I have to make sure I’m not hanging around men who see no problem with this,” instead of, “more men than that visit Pornhub every month,” as if that somehow makes it better? What will it take for them to speak out loudly against these atrocities without prompting?

I have never felt less safe around men, and that includes every. single. one. Because yeah, when I first read this story, my initial thought was, “My husband would never ever in a million years do anything like this.” But then my next thought was, “I expect all those women thought the exact same thing about their own husbands.” And while deep down I truly do not believe my husband is capable of such evils, the fact is, there is no way of knowing that for sure. But even if I don’t think a man I know is an imminent threat to my safety and wellbeing, I do not believe that the majority of them would back me over a man they know. Not even men that have been my friends for years. They would go to war for their golf buddies’ reputations, but not a woman they’ve treated like a sister for actual decades. And that is fucking depressing.

I have reached the point in my life where I no longer consider myself a feminist, I consider myself a femme supremacist. I genuinely believe we are better than men at every single things save feats of physical strength, and even that isn’t always the case. We are better leaders, better nurturers, we are more innovative and resilient, we carry empathy and caring for others in our marrow and in our bones, in our genetic code. We are the bearers of all human life, we bring life into this world and then we raise it. If we weren’t meant to be in a matriarchy, human women would die after their child bearing years like other mammals; but instead, we experience menopause. Years, sometimes decades where we can no longer bear children, but are meant to guide the younger generations and pass down our knowledge and wisdom. Only a few species of whales also experience menopause; they cease birthing calves once their daughters start and instead begin focusing on keeping the next generations of whales safe. They also live in matriarchal pods. Matriarchy is the only way forward, and it must be led predominantly by Black, Indigenous, and other Women of Color. White women, sit the fuck down and shut the fuck up and thank your lucky stars they’re willing to let some of us in at all.

You may think this sounds extreme or hyperbolic, and I need you to know from the very depths of my heart and soul that I do not give a single solitary fuck. I am done “calming down” because reality makes you uncomfortable. I am sick and fucking tired of being told I’m overreacting, when in fact all you losers have been wildly underreacting for 10 years. I am the mother of three girls. THREE. And I have sat back for the last several years and witnessed half of my country justify the molestation of little girls just like mine because people are violently allergic to holding men accountable for anything. The world is being led by a perverse cabal of pedophiles and cannibals and we’re just all walking around and going to our silly little jobs like it’s normal. Millions and millions of pages in the Epstein Files of proof of men abusing children in the most horrific ways imaginable and the only person in jail is a fucking woman.

The fellas can’t stop screaming “NOT ALL MEN!”, but tell me, how exactly am I to teach my daughters *which* men are dangerous? When women are not safe in their own homes, their own beds, their own marriages, how would you advise your daughters on picking the right partner? Or, would you maybe try and condition them into being lesbians, despite knowing beyond a shadow of a doubt that sexuality isn’t a choice? Because that’s where I am at this point. I don’t want to lock my daughters away because I am afraid of them getting pregnant or they’re too young or whatever the fuck– I want to lock them up to protect them from YOUR sons. From the feral monsters that men have turned into.

I am forever changed after reading that story. I will never be the same. I will never fully trust a man again. The damage is irreparable, and I am not convinced that the men care enough to even try to repair the havoc they’ve ravaged on our bodies, minds, and spirits. Caring would require them to admit that the overwhelming majority of their brothers are shit, and I think we all know that they do not have the gumption for that.

Some of you shit weasels seriously wondered why we would choose the bear. Matriarchy. Now.